1. Consider your own use of suppression and venting to manage your emotions. What leads you to choose one or the other strategy? Do you believe that there should be limits to how often you vent or how long you suppress? If so, why?
Supress:
~I usually choose suppression because I do not like making others feel bad about things
~after suppressing for a while I do hve to vent but I try to not make it a big deal
~I think that you should limit how much you vent or supress at least some because you want to be careful who you vent to
also you do not want to supress to long it might make you blow up later
3 Recall a conflict in which you avoided conflict (pg. 296-297). Why did you choose avoidance? What negative consequences ensued from this decision? Were there any positive outcomes? If you could redo the encounter, what, if anything, would you say and do differently to obtain more positive results?
Conflict:
~Since I am the youngest girl in my family my dad sometimes still seems to treat me like a little kid, so rather than call and have
a phone conversation with him I usually just text him a "hi" occasionally, avoiding the awkwardness of actually talking to him
Why Avoidance:
~It is pretty easy to get away with since he lives in Indy and I do not see him often
Negative Consequences?:
~Since I do not talk to him often I sometimes start thinking like I am a let down to him
What Would You Redo?:
~I know that I am not really a let down and I wish that I could talk to him more but I just do not feel all that comfortable so I
do not think that I will really change much
Supress:
- usually do not let others know how I'm feeling
- bottle it all up inside
- get really quiet
- after suppressing to long I tend to let it all out
~I usually choose suppression because I do not like making others feel bad about things
~after suppressing for a while I do hve to vent but I try to not make it a big deal
~I think that you should limit how much you vent or supress at least some because you want to be careful who you vent to
also you do not want to supress to long it might make you blow up later
3 Recall a conflict in which you avoided conflict (pg. 296-297). Why did you choose avoidance? What negative consequences ensued from this decision? Were there any positive outcomes? If you could redo the encounter, what, if anything, would you say and do differently to obtain more positive results?
Conflict:
~Since I am the youngest girl in my family my dad sometimes still seems to treat me like a little kid, so rather than call and have
a phone conversation with him I usually just text him a "hi" occasionally, avoiding the awkwardness of actually talking to him
Why Avoidance:
~It is pretty easy to get away with since he lives in Indy and I do not see him often
Negative Consequences?:
~Since I do not talk to him often I sometimes start thinking like I am a let down to him
What Would You Redo?:
~I know that I am not really a let down and I wish that I could talk to him more but I just do not feel all that comfortable so I
do not think that I will really change much
